Virtuous Daughters 35 Day Challenge day 31
Jul 31st, 2010 by Miss Samantha
Challenge #31
Good morning my dear girls,
I do pray that these have been a blessing to all of you, as they have been to me. I have been learning right alongside of you, so although I am the one writing them, I am far from having learned all of these myself. I still have a far ways to go, but, with His help, we shall continue to grow in Him!
So, shall we begin today’s challenge? Let’s see what our Father has for us today…
Question #5
“Is talking about the law or doctrine with other women, wrong to do?”
Well, another reason I do not speak about my doctrines on my website is because I do not want to teach another young woman to go against what her father/husband is trying to teach her. I have had a lot of people in my days try to do just that. They try to go behind my father’s back, and try to teach me that what my father is teaching me is wrong. This wasn’t their place. God didn’t give me to them; he gave me to my dad (who by the way, I adore!). They don’t have a command to teach me the things of God, Dad does. So yes, I will say that I believe it is wrong to speak about such things.
Now, let me explain myself here. If someone out of curiosity comes up and asks me what I believe, I have no problem with telling them and explaining why I believe, what I believe. We get this a lot with just how we dress and with keeping the law. I am not trying to teach them here, I am explaining why I do “such and such” of a thing. Yet, if someone wants to get into a doctrinal conversation with me about why I believe what I believe, and is trying to defeat what Dad is trying to teach, I no longer have any part in it. I simply will back out graciously or simply tell them that I do not feel this is their job, and I can send them off to dad. J
God has placed me under my father, but He hasn’t just placed me under my father and told my father to “protect” me, girls. He has also given me a mandate to stay under my father, as well. So, it isn’t just my father’s responsibility, but, it is just as much my responsibility to stay where my father can protect me, as it is my father’s responsibility to protect me. I have just as much a responsibility to protect that aspect of my relationship with my father, as he does. Do you see what I mean?
Let me try to explain this in relationship to a courtship, as I am sure most of you would be able to understand what I am about to say a little bit better. We are to be chaperoned, right? This is for our own protection. So, do we purposefully go out of our way to make it hard on our chaperones to chaperone us? Or, do we purposefully make sure that WE stick in sight of them and WE remain where all can see us (or atleast the person designated to chaperone us)? I dare say; the latter one. It isn’t their job to be running after us. It would be our job to stay with them. This is just doing our duty as a courting couple. This rule wasn’t put in for the other person, but for our own protection and we would have no right to fight against it and make it hard on them. That would just hurt us in the end, not the chaperoning person. So it is, with our relationships. We are to guard our relationships with our fathers/husbands and what they are trying to teach us. But not only are we to guard our relationships with them, but we are to help them do their job, not make it impossible for them to do it.
And I know this will probably bring up another question about talking to suitors or could be suitors, about what we believe, especially if we don’t agree with our fathers in all that they are teaching (and with our husbands-to-be’s, we would need us to be honest with them, concerning such things), and to this I would say, follow your fathers leadership in this area. If he gives you permission to discuss such things with another, because of the possibility here, then by all means do it, because you now have his blessing in this regard. I am not talking about not talking about how you feel or what you personally believe in a courtship environment, but in an everyday friendship with another woman and/or man. There is certainly a time and a place where I believe you should talk about it, but in general, I think you need to be very careful about this, as there will be a lot of people that will try to tell you that what you are being taught, whether it be by your father or by your husband, is wrong, and you need to guard against that.
Once again, remember, we were told to follow, they were the ones told to lead. So, whether we agree with them or not, makes no difference. We still need to submit joyfully, and back them up, and you can’t do this, by talking to another about what you disagree with them about, as this is NOT backing them up.
And also remember that if you encourage another to go against her head of authority that God Himself put over her, you are in direct disobedience to God Himself. You were NOT the ones put in charge of her, spiritually, her father/husband, was. So be very careful here, girls. And this goes for everything you talk about. You be careful that you teach that woman how to love her man, not go against what he is trying to instill in her.
How very true this is my dear girls. As I reread through this, I can’t help but nod my head again and again. I have seen this so much within my own life. It is SO vitally important for us to stay underneath the authority and head of our fathers (or our husband if we happen to be married)! There is so much protection that comes from that, and it is just as much our job as it is theirs. Make their life so much easier, by them knowing without a shadow of a doubt, that you are behind them 100% and that they do not have to fear about someone taking their place.
Girls, guard your hearts! And guard your relationship with that dear man! Do not let ANYONE or ANYTHING get between you and your Daddy/Husband! And if something or someone has come between you, and you now find a wall between the two of you, go get that ax and break through that wall and don’t stop until you get through it!
May Yahweh show each of you the blessing of being underneath and guarding that relationship and may He help you break through that wall, if you find yourself on the other side of it.
With all my love,
Your sister, Samantha